Your Man Is Not Responsible For Your Happiness!

Hey Gorgeous!

I just had a HUGE A-HA MOMENT today and I would love to share it with you…

I've just realized that in the last few days, I've been letting my Man's actions (and most importantly, lack of actions) guide my happiness.

I've noticed that at the times he disappeared, stopped sending messages or initiating any kind of contact, I would get in a state of anxiety, worry and urgency.

I would feel triggered every time he didn't contact me for a few days.

All my traumas from past relationships would come up and I would get into a very creative mode (yes, women can be very creative!) and start coming up with all these insane reasons why he disappeared.

And because of my past history of attracting unfaithful men, I would always feel insecure about there being another woman.

And this would shift my energy and I would feel extremely unhappy and anxious.

My instinct would be to message him straight away and ask him "What's going on? Why did you disappear?"

My focus was all over him…

I could not stop thinking about why he wasn't showing up.

I was in my head all the time!

And the anxiety, urgency and feeling of abandonment would increase.. 

Can you relate to this?

If so, please don't blame yourself!

We've all been there and I'm here for you!

And I feel so grateful to know better now…

And so this is what I did:

I did not initiate any contact (like I've always used to) and got back to my Life.

I started focusing on myself and doing things that made me feel happy and alive.

I could feel the shift in my vibe!

I could feel my energy move away from him…

And like magic he called!

And I suddenly felt better…

I was happy and light and cheerful again!

And this is when I had my breakthrough:

Wow! If he doesn't call I feel miserable and if he calls I feel fantastic…

Is that how I want to live?

Do I want my happiness to be guided by his actions?

No!

I'm responsible for my own Happiness!

Happiness is an inside job!

We have to know how to make ourselves feel fulfilled!

We have to find meaning in Life outside the relationship.

We can't go into a relationship to feel happy.

We go into a relationship to grow, to share our feelings, to face our triggers, to learn how to love, to understand the other person's needs and our own needs, to learn to communicate, to receive, to have an adventure, to explore our sexuality...

We don't do it to be happy.

We show up happy!

We focus on making our Life juicy and alive no matter what!

Life is supposed to be fun!

It's good to feel good!

And that is our job… not our partner's!

I made it my goal to Always Be Responsible For My Own Happiness!

I'm no longer holding any Man responsible for my happiness.

And the happier I become, the more Magnetic I become.

The better I feel, the more I'm in my power.

Oh, and isn't that fun!

I hope this inspires you…

You deserve to be happy and feel all the Love in this world.

How about starting with Love and Happiness for yourself?

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I cannot wait to see what will unfold for you, Queen!

Lots of Love,

Tania Costa Lima